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@AnAutieAtUni
@actuallyautistic
I envy those who not only can accomplish chores, but enjoy it.
My distro of AuDHD is
I CRAVE, NEED ORDER, but I am powerless to create order.
@actuallyautistic @AnAutieAtUni @hellomiakoda me too! I’ve always had this sense that like. I want things to be in order, organised, neat. But never been able to actually do it
@hellomiakoda @AnAutieAtUni @actuallyautistic
I love order and I like creating order.
That said: I can only create order if I have a clear concept. Which normally excludes a lot of things as "out of scope".
So my resistors are perfectly ordered in two boxes but my overall electronics equipment is distributed... everywhere... 
@AnAutieAtUni @wakame @actuallyautistic @hellomiakoda oh yeah I relate to that a lot. Not every pile is organise, but it’s much easier to organise a drawer or a category than everything.
Predictably, more piles crop up in the meantime and then there are more chaos piles than ordered ones. Plus there is no order to the arrangement of piles
@hellomiakoda @actuallyautistic @AnAutieAtUni I have always face similar struggles. I realized that I hated chores because they got in the way of other things I wanted to do. As a result, I rushed through them distractedly, while thinking deeply about whatever topic is my current obsession. As a result, I did a lousy hint of cleaning and ordering, and felt frustrated at not being able to fully focus on what I really wanted to think about.
In the last few months, I have started a new approach. Infodump incoming: Now, I try not to be distracted and to focus on the chores, trying to see if there is anything interesting there. And there is! I have learned that repeated gentle strokes are both more effective and less painful than forceful scrubbing. Polishing glass with a soft towel really does make it clear and beautiful, like the laminar flow of water. Robots do a good enough job of vacuuming that I only rarely need to vacuum any more. Leaving gaps when filling the dishwasher means I can run it every night. Putting away dishes is more exciting when combined with stretches and tai chi-like moves. In other words, while it is still not at the top of my list of things I enjoy, it is no longer at the bottom.
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@hellomiakoda @actuallyautistic @AnAutieAtUni Oh, and I don’t beat myself up anymore when my cleaning amounts:
Put away half the dishes then while putting away a glass, spend 10 minutes polishing it to perfection, rearrange all the glasses on the shelf, find an old mug I had forgotten about, decide to make coffee, while making coffee start wiping the counter around the coffee machine and realize the counter would be more efficient if I just shuffled some things around, and in the process put half a dozen tools I rarely use in a box and carry it to the garage, where I realize there is no room on the shelf, so I start cleaning the garage then realize I never drank my coffee and sit down to take a break and drink it, and read for a few hours.
Because, I had fun and got half the dishes put away, the glasses rearranged, and some junk moved. I can do the rest some other time.
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@bhawthorne Your story sounds so familiar to me. So many task detours in my own home.